Overthinking About You

Dating is hard – but when you live with anxiety, OCD, and/or depression, dating can feel like a minefield. At last, a book that focuses solely on mental health and dating – an intersection that demands attention, given that one in five Americans will experience a mental illness in a given year. Overthinking About You is a memoir-driven self-help book that explores the complex connection between brain and heart, for an engaging, useful, and relatable read for anyone whose mental health has gotten in the way of successful romantic relationships. Dating is hard. But pursuing love and relationships when you live with mental illness can be even more overwhelming.

Allison Raskin knows this challenge firsthand and shares her journey with perfect candour. She’s learned from her experiences, and we get to learn from her, discovering new ways to form healthy dating and relationship habits. How do you talk to a partner about your mental health? What is the potential impact of SSRIs on your body? What is the difference between having valid concerns and catastrophising? It’s all here, from meeting online to how to handle a breakup, from recognising and avoiding unhealthy relationships to the big one – sex.

Woven in throughout are interviews with clinical psychologists, a psychiatrist, a sexologist, relationship experts, and real-life couples for their points of view and professional guidance. All to help you walk away from this book feeling less alone in the struggle and better prepared to tackle dating and relationships with more confidence and less worry.

“"Allison Raskin is a warm hug in the world of mental health. She reminds us that this life is meant to be enjoyed and to never give up on love because we all are more than deserving of it. This book is going to save relationships!" -- Kelsey Darragh , author of Don't Fcking Panic: The Shit They Don't Tell You in Therapy About Anxiety Disorder, Panic Attacks, and Depression "Romance and love can press all the buttons for overthinkers, denying us what we ultimately crave. Thank you, Allison, for being the brave soul to finally show us we can do both--fret and share a healthy intimate connection with another awesome human!" -- Sarah Wilson , New York Times bestselling author of First, We Make the Beast Beautiful "A warm and thoughtful guide to an under-discussed topic." -- Mara Wilson , writer and actor "This invaluable and empowering primer delivers on its promise to help readers date while struggling with mental illness." -- Publishers Weekly”

“Allison Raskin is a warm hug in the world of mental health. She reminds us that this life is meant to be enjoyed and to never give up on love because we all are more than deserving of it. This book is going to save relationships!” —Kelsey Darragh, author of Don’​t Fcking Panic: The Shit They Don’t Tell You in Therapy About Anxiety Disorder, Panic Attacks, and Depression

“Romance and love can press all the buttons for overthinkers, denying us what we ultimately crave. Thank you, Allison, for being the brave soul to finally show us we can do both—fret and share a healthy intimate connection with another awesome human!” —Sarah Wilson, New York Times bestselling author of First, We Make the Beast Beautiful

“A warm and thoughtful guide to an under-discussed topic.” —Mara Wilson, writer and actor

“This invaluable and empowering primer delivers on its promise to help readers date while struggling with mental illness.” —Publishers Weekly

“Allison Raskin is a warm hug in the world of mental health. She reminds us that this life is meant to be enjoyed and to never give up on love because we all are more than deserving of it. This book is going to save relationships!” —Kelsey Darragh, author of Don’​t F*cking Panic: The Shit They Don’t Tell You in Therapy About Anxiety Disorder, Panic Attacks, and Depression

“Romance and love can press all the buttons for overthinkers, denying us what we ultimately crave. Thank you, Allison, for being the brave soul to finally show us we can do both—fret and share a healthy intimate connection with another awesome human!” —Sarah Wilson, New York Times bestselling author of First, We Make the Beast Beautiful

“A warm and thoughtful guide to an under-discussed topic.” —Mara Wilson, writer and actor

“This invaluable and empowering primer delivers on its promise to help readers date while struggling with mental illness.” —Publishers Weekly

“A quick, quippy book that can be read in an afternoon. The thing I liked most was Raskin’s observation that we’re allowed to be works in progress, and that if you’re prone to overthink, it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be in love.” —Boston Globe

“Raskin’s book is a powerful reminder that while mental health can be all-consuming, it doesn’t define you—and it certainly doesn’t have to define your relationships.” —Teen Vogue

Allison Raskin is a New York Times bestselling author, actress, director, mental health advocate, and cocreator of the YouTube comedy channel and podcast Just Between Us. She also runs Emotional Support Lady, a platform for mental health advocacy on Instagram and Patreon.

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